HAPPINESS Five signs that you are a happy person: 5. Upside down people all wonder why you are frowning.4. Everywhere you go, you see people smiling back at you.3. Your mirror is the happiest person you’ve met all day.2. Actually, you’ve heard nothing but positive news all week.
1. Your tummy is still warm from the last hug.
The battle for your success is fought and won nowhere else but in your mind.
Your success or failure is does not necessarily depend upon where you are born or brought up, your bank balance or also your level of formal education. Although, I am a proponent of the value of a good education, I’ll always weigh a sharp mind, determination, ethics and perseverance over a good education every time. Your success or failure does not depend upon what your family, your friends, your peers or your co-workers feel are your chances.
I know for sure there is scope for debate on every point that’s mentioned. The point is – Your success depends on what you have inside. Let’s think and find some answers of tough question – Are you a winner?
Can you withstand failure? Because most winners fail. In fact, a great many winners fail over and over and over again. Are you able to be knocked down or knocked out in your attempts to succeed, but have enough courage and tenacity to get up time and time again, brush yourself off, figure out what went wrong, what you did wrong, and then start again?
Are you able to withstand humiliation? In the midst of failing, can you endure your closest family, friends or loved ones saying “I told you so”, “I knew you couldn’t do it”, “I don’t even know why you wasted your time/money/effort”, when you know in your heart that you are capable and you can achieve the success you so desire?
Can you humble yourself? Can you face customers, partners, or investors when all your resources has run out and you still haven’t made a go of it, yet you have to go ahead with more resources, because you know it will work?
Can you cope with the loneliness and isolation that is often an inherent part of leadership, because no one else shares your vision or can see the future the way in which you see it?
Are you strong enough to break through or break free of limitations you put upon yourself or that others have placed on you? Are you able to lift yourself beyond your current circumstances? Can you drive yourself forward, even when it means challenging and overcoming immense fear?
Are you a winner? Not everyone is, you know. Winning is a hard, difficult business. If it was so easy, everybody would be winners. People get tired, people get lazy, people change their minds about what they want and what they’re willing to settle for.
Are you a winner? I don’t know, but I believe you have what it takes to succeed or you wouldn’t be here. I believe that there is a reason and a time and a place for everything. I believe that’s why you’re reading these words right now.
Are you a winner?
Only you can answer that question.
“Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.”
For instance, as yourself a question – Are you a hunter or a fisherman ? It’s not actually about hunting and fishing .. but the analogy that hunting and fishing provides us as it relates to success in general – leadership and influence specifically.
Generally there are two kinds of people: those who hunt (and are constantly tracking down success), and those who fish (or let success and leadership come to them). So with this analogy. Fishing is about attraction. It is about magnetically having success and influence come to you. When you are hunting, everything just runs away !
How do you fish rather than hunt?
Good question. Fishing is all about presenting great bait. So what is the bait? — YOU YOURSELF !
That is why personal development is so important. The more we improve, the more attractive we become to others and to success ! We should make it an everyday goal to develop ourselves and improve so as to become the best people we can be. As we do that, we will begin to see success come our way with less effort than if we just sat in the same old spot personally all the time.
Become a fisherman of success and influence.
Stop Chasing success… Attract it !
Happiness has always been seen as too vague as a concept. what really makes us happy? Make your own list of what makes you happy, and then compare it with the list made by behavioral scientists and psychologists. Most of the experts agree with the following conclusions:
1. Wealth and fortune do not contribute to happiness. There is a lot of evidence that being richer isn’t making us happier, which is fair! The research suggests that once you have shelter or modest home, basic food and clothes, then extra money does not seem to make people much happier. Now we have evidence: we can be happy without being rich, therefore no more excuses for being unhappy because you don’t have a lot of money.
The standard of living in many countries has increased dramatically but not necessarily the happiness levels, and in some cases has diminished slightly. Despite all the massive increase in wealth, our levels of happiness have not increased. We know the reason: it is our intention to adapt to pleasure. For example, buying a new car or purchasing a new home can give us a quick feeling of pleasure and at the same time can quickly wear off. Those kinds of pleasures have limitations and they gradually lose their power. Pretty dark statement from the scientific point of view, isn’t it?
2. Health, family and friends are the most important factors for our happiness. If you are healthy person in relatively a good shape, with good family and personal relationships, consider yourself a happy and a lucky person. Happy people have a lot of friends, and they make very close friendships, too.
Just as a reminder: as stress can trigger ill health, friendship and happiness can have a protective effect. Now we know that our brain control many of the mechanisms in our bodies which are responsible for disease. What we learn from positive psychology is: friendship has a much bigger effect on happiness than a typical person’s income. This is one more reason to believe that we can be happy despite having to struggle with a difficult financial situation. At this moment scientists cannot prove causation; whether, for example, people are healthy because they are happy, or whether people are happy because they are healthy.
3. Having goals and a meaning life, a belief in something bigger than us – from religion, spirituality or a philosophy of life is crucial for our happiness. Finding meaning in life is like finding gold mine. Dig it and you will find your lost goals and your lost happiness. With meaning and goals in your life, you will be always on the track. The theory sounds good, but what’s the reality? The question is: whether we can actually use our knowledge of what makes us happy to lift our levels of happiness permanently?
We need to accept the reality: life is not always all about happiness. Unhappiness is a part of life, too. Life is unpredictable with no guarantee for happiness. The mind rises and falls and illness can shift happiness into sadness. If you expect to be happy all the time you are making an unrealistic goal. The best you can do is to make an effort and learn what makes you a happy person.
